Honor God with your Body

1 Corinthians 6:9-11

Don’t you realize that those who do wrong will not inherit the Kingdom of God? Don’t fool yourselves. Those who indulge in sexual sin, or who worship idols, or commit adultery, or are male prostitutes, or practice homosexuality, 10 or are thieves, or greedy people, or drunkards, or are abusive, or cheat people—none of these will inherit the Kingdom of God. 11 Some of you were once like that. But you were cleansed; you were made holy; you were made right with God by calling on the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God.

Since the creation of man & woman, the enemy has lied to God’s children and their doubt of the Almighty’s goodness has resulted in their choosing to sin against Him. Sin is sin, there is no “ranking”  in God’s word about which is the worst. But, there are several warnings listed about the severity of sexual sin and how it affects the individual and the ones in whom he/she is in relationship.

I know this all too well, for I did not heed the warnings. Not only did I believe in my mind that I had the “right” to do such things, my emotions confirmed the deceit that doing what felt good in the moment would fill the void of love, acceptance and worthiness that I so desperately craved. Decision after decision to disobey God’s commands drowned out the whisper of the Holy Spirit to RUN FROM ALL SEXUAL SIN until eventually, I no longer heard Him speak. My mind and emotions had convinced my will to surrender to the wooing of the enemy.

1 Corinthians 6:12-20

12 You say, “I am allowed to do anything”—but not everything is good for you. And even though “I am allowed to do anything,” I must not become a slave to anything. 13 You say, “Food was made for the stomach, and the stomach for food.” (This is true, though someday God will do away with both of them.) But you can’t say that our bodies were made for sexual immorality. They were made for the Lord, and the Lord cares about our bodies. 14 And God will raise us from the dead by his power, just as he raised our Lord from the dead.

15 Don’t you realize that your bodies are actually parts of Christ? Should a man take his body, which is part of Christ, and join it to a prostitute? Never! 16 And don’t you realize that if a man joins himself to a prostitute, he becomes one body with her? For the Scriptures say, “The two are united into one.”[d]17 But the person who is joined to the Lord is one spirit with him.

18 Run from sexual sin! No other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does. For sexual immorality is a sin against your own body. 19 Don’t you realize that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and was given to you by God? You do not belong to yourself, 20 for God bought you with a high price. So you must honor God with your body.

For years I allowed my flesh to be the lord of my life and slowly my experiences plunged me into a deep dark depression which tempted me to just run away from it all- permanently.

I was robbed of the joy of living and everything I held dear had either been stolen, killed or almost completely destroyed. Not only was my relationship with my Heavenly Father broken, but so was my relationship with my spouse. Oneness had always eluded us.

Fed up & desperate for change, I finally surrendered to the only One who could rescue me from the pit.

Psalm 103:1-5

Praise the Lord, my soul;
all my inmost being, praise his holy name.

Praise the Lord, my soul,
and forget not all his benefits—

who forgives all your sins
and heals all your diseases,

who redeems your life from the pit
and crowns you with love and compassion,

who satisfies your desires with good things
so that your youth is renewed like the eagle’s.

The first choice I had to make towards being made right with God was to call on the name of the Lord and ask the Holy Spirit for help. Then I had to be willing to acknowledging all the deep dark secrets that had been locked away from myself and others for so many years. Only then was I able to force my will to confess & repent to God, confess and repent to my husband and confess to others who helped me through the process of cleansing.

1 John 1:9

But if we confess our sins to him, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all wickedness.

As a daughter in the Kingdom of God who has received a rich inheritance I can tell you that there is only ONE WAY to obtain the love, acceptance and worthiness your soul was made to crave. Don’t be fooled by the lies of the enemy to engage in sexual sin. Jesus is the ONLY way, the ONLY Truth and the ONLY life. And He is the ONLY One who can truly set you free from the bondage of sexual sin so that you may once again honor God with your body.

John 8:36

36 So if the Son sets you free, you are truly free.

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Be Fruitful & Multiply

Genesis 1:28

Then God blessed them and said, “Be fruitful and multiply…

After creating everything in the universe, God proclaimed it “good”- until He formed man. He knew that it was “NOT good” for him to be alone. So, as only God could do, He created a helper that was suitable for him; spiritually, emotionally & physically.

Far too often, couples find it difficult to be fruitful & multiply in all 3 of these areas.  To further complicate matters, when the physical union of the relationship is broken, it can greatly affect the spiritual and emotional aspects of the marriage as well, making it almost impossible to become one.

1 Corinthians 6:12-20

12 You say, “I am allowed to do anything”—but not everything is good for you. And even though “I am allowed to do anything,” I must not become a slave to anything. 13 You say, “Food was made for the stomach, and the stomach for food.” (This is true, though someday God will do away with both of them.) But you can’t say that our bodies were made for sexual immorality. They were made for the Lord, and the Lord cares about our bodies. 14 And God will raise us from the dead by his power, just as he raised our Lord from the dead.

15 Don’t you realize that your bodies are actually parts of Christ? Should a man take his body, which is part of Christ, and join it to a prostitute? Never! 16 And don’t you realize that if a man joins himself to a prostitute, he becomes one body with her? For the Scriptures say, “The two are united into one.”[a] 17 But the person who is joined to the Lord is one spirit with him.

18 Run from sexual sin! No other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does. For sexual immorality is a sin against your own body. 19 Don’t you realize that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and was given to you by God? You do not belong to yourself, 20 for God bought you with a high price. So you must honor God with your body.

The enemy is crafty. He beings to prey on us when we are young, tempting us to submit to the yearning of our flesh, instead of the yearning of our soul. The fact is, God created us to express our love in a physical manner with our spouse, but our bodies begin to prepare themselves- as He designed- years before we say, “I do.” Satan knows that sex can be a powerful form of worship between a husband and wife who are submitted to God and one another. Therefore, he will do anything he can to ensure we never experience the euphoric union that God intended for us to share with our spouse. Unfortunately, his schemes have worked on far too many couples, leaving them feeling numb and full of spiritual, emotional and physical scars inflicted by sexual sin.

-Pornography

-Masturbation

-Fornication

-Adultery

If we want to live fruitful lives and multiply our descendants and disciples we must allow the Great Physician to gently pull back the scars, carefully clean out the wounds and lovingly heal our mind, body and soul.

God offers redemption and restoration for every person- every couple, if they will trust Him and submit to His commands. Only then can we experience true oneness, as God intended, with our spouse. And that my friends, is GOOD.

“Father, I repent for engaging in pornography & masturbation. I ask that you break the “oneness” with every image/person I’ve seen and fantasized about.”

“Lord, I repent for engaging in (any form of) fornication with _____________. I ask that you break the “oneness” between us.”

“God, I repent for breaking my marriage vows by engaging in (any form of) adultery with ____________. I ask that you break the “oneness” between us.”

Jeremiah 31:3-6

Long ago the Lord said to Israel:
“I have loved you, my people, with an everlasting love.
    With unfailing love I have drawn you to myself. 4 I will rebuild you, my virgin Israel.
    You will again be happy
    and dance merrily with your tambourines.5 Again you will plant your vineyards on the mountains of Samaria
    and eat from your own gardens there.6 The day will come when watchmen will shout
    from the hill country of Ephraim,
‘Come, let us go up to Jerusalem[a]    to worship the Lord our God.’”

Adulterous Woman

John 8

Jesus returned to the Mount of Olives, but early the next morning he was back again at the Temple. A crowd soon gathered, and he sat down and taught them. As he was speaking, the teachers of religious law and the Pharisees brought a woman who had been caught in the act of adultery. They put her in front of the crowd.

“Teacher,” they said to Jesus, “this woman was caught in the act of adultery. The law of Moses says to stone her. What do you say?”

They were trying to trap him into saying something they could use against him, but Jesus stooped down and wrote in the dust with his finger. They kept demanding an answer, so he stood up again and said, “All right, but let the one who has never sinned throw the first stone!” Then he stooped down again and wrote in the dust.

When the accusers heard this, they slipped away one by one, beginning with the oldest, until only Jesus was left in the middle of the crowd with the woman. 10 Then Jesus stood up again and said to the woman, “Where are your accusers? Didn’t even one of them condemn you?”

11 “No, Lord,” she said.

And Jesus said, “Neither do I. Go and sin no more.”

During my formative years, I was never part of the “in” crowd. I had friends of various stereotypes; the jocks, the musicians, the churchgoers, the honor rollers, but I never fit in with the kids on top. You know the type: the rich kids who are the prettiest, most popular, best dressed, homecoming king and queen. I always said I didn’t care to be in their “click,” but deep down I wanted to be accepted…I wanted to feel like I belonged with the recognized elite group.

When I became a culture-shocked teenager, after moving from Southern California to “Hicksville” North Carolina, I just wanted to blend in with the locals. Unfortunately, I never quite fit in- anywhere. Instead, I was labeled as the stereotypical valley girl; wealthy, arrogant, airheaded…you get the idea. As a result, the girls mercilessly bullied me in my school. I was followed like a prey before slaughter; cussed at, taunted and pushed around. On one occasion, a girl spit gum in my hair. They even went so far as calling my home- threatening to beat me up if I didn’t do exactly as they said. And so, I spent the next 2 years of middle school and 3 years of high school trying to be accepted. Unfortunately, the only ones who wanted me were the boys. Like a moth to a flame, I was drawn to them, and ultimately, death was the result of their attention.

This unhealthy cycle continued into college, until I met a man who asked me a simple, yet profound question: “Why do you continue to disrespect yourself like that? You are worth FAR more than what you believe about yourself.”

2 years later, I married him.

I can relate all too well to the adulterous woman in John, chapter 8. I understand the shame she felt as the religious elite gathered around her. I have been at the center of a crowd who ridiculed me for the sins they thought I engaged in- and for the sins in which I willingly committed. I have stared into the faces of the Pharisees, as they’ve mocked me, taunted me, and rejected me. The stones they’ve hurled have bruised my soul.

But, I’ve also stared into the face of my Savior and listened to Him say “You are my precious, expressive, bold, submissive, passionate daughter- you are loved…. you are forgiven. Go, and sin no more.”

Decades later, I sometimes still feel like that teenager girl- not a part of the “in” crowd in my city, my neighborhood, my church or my homeschool groups. Whether the rejection is actual, or just a ploy of the enemy in an attempt to destroy me, I know, that I know, that I know, that I belong to the only One that matters.

Perhaps you’re that girl- or guy who always feels like you’ll never fit in.

Perhaps you’re a sinner who feels condemned by the choices you’ve made to fill a void in your life.

Perhaps you’ve been badly bruised by Pharisee’s who seem to be “perfect.”

You are not alone. There is someone who knows exactly what it feels like to be an outcast, to be condemned and to be wrongfully accused. He died for you and His name is Jesus Christ. Accept Him as your Savior today, and be a part of His “in” crowd -for all eternity.

Train up a child…about sex

Proverbs 22:6 New American Standard Bible (NASB)

Train up a child in the way he should go,
 Even when he is old he will not depart from it.

1 Corinthians 6:18 New Living Translation (NLT)

Run from sexual sin! No other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does. For sexual immorality is a sin against your own body.

I’m sure you’re thinking: what in the world do these 2 verses have in common? At first glance, nothing. Proverbs was written by Solomon to the people of Israel, in order that they may attain wisdom & discipline to obey God. 1 Corinthians was written by Paul to the church in Corinth to show believers how to live for Christ, despite living in a sin filled world. Knowing that, it is imperative that we merge both verses together in our hearts, so that we can train our children how to run from sexual sin.

If you’ve ever heard mine and Doug’s story, you know that, unfortunately, purity wasn’t part of our marriage covenant, nor did we run from sexual sin after we said “I do.” In fact, it almost destroyed our marriage. After we both began the journey of repentance, forgiveness & healing, God began to birth a strong desire in us to be completely transparent with others and especially our children about our struggles & failures with sexual sin. We believe that talking about God’s design for sex & how the enemy constantly wants to steal, kill & destroy it, we can better equip our children to make the wise choice of saving themselves for marriage. From a very early age, we began teaching our children about their bodies (by using anatomically correct terms) & how God made them to fit together perfectly with their future spouse. We also had many opportunities to discuss where babies come from with our older 2 girls, because we had 2 more children after them! The older our kids became, however, the more we saw a need for planned teachable moments, so I began to search for Christian books about sex. I not only wanted a book to contain scripture about God’s beautiful design for sex within marriage, but I also wanted the facts & consequences of those that choose otherwise. My sister suggested the  “God’s Design for Sex” series:

www.amazon.com/The-Story-Gods-Design-Book/dp/1600060137

As we’ve read & shared with others about the conversations we’ve had with our children, we’ve heard many comments like:

“I can’t BELIEVE you talked about THAT with your kids.”

“I could NEVER tell my kids the truth about THAT!”

“I can’t even talk to my SPOUSE about sex…how in the heck can I talk to my kids about it!?”

These statements have revealed a disturbing trend among believers: Shame over past sexual sins is keeping husbands & wives in bondage. And, as a result, their children are left unprotected from the enemy’s plans to steal, kill & destroy their purity.

The only way to stop this epidemic is for couples to begin the journey of repentance of sexual sin, forgiveness & healing through Jesus Christ. Only then, can they begin to train their children in the way that they should go…

Not sure how to being the journey? Seek a godly mentor and ask them for help.